It took me a while to decide on whether or not I wanted to post this, but life is about taking risks, so here goes nothin'.
Boys, I'm going to have to ask that you bear with me on this one, or maybe even try to relate and learn a thing or two. This commercial came on my timeline the other day and really spoke to me. Take a minute and watch it, then I want to discuss my thoughts on it:
Being a college-aged girl, I am constantly surrounded by girls with self-esteem high and (mostly) low on the spectrum. I'll be the first to admit that my self-esteem was at an all-time low my sophomore year of high school (as some may have read in my bio), and it has luckily steadily increased since then. Do I still have bad days? Absolutely, but what gets me through the day is remembering how far I've come from walking into a room and thinking everyone was taking a mental note at how my thighs resembled tree-trunks. We have a huge problem with the society we live in, and something needs to change. I realize one person can't change everyone's perspective on it, but I am going to try my hardest.
So, why is it so hard for us to accept a compliment?From what I've learned from carefully observing lately is that a majority of the time, girls who are more receptive to compliments have more confidence. Why? Because the way we respond reflects how we feel deep down about ourselves. It's heartbreaking when I give a truly meaningful compliment that quickly gets rejected because they feel uncomfortable that my thoughts contradict their own thoughts about themselves. It's also sad that I can't change how the person feels about themselves, because they are trapped in their own mind. No, I am not a psychologist, but I come to this theory from my own life experiences. I know what it's like to be trapped, to feel like you have no control over your thoughts and perception about yourself; but, I'm tired of the negative talk and I'm ready to hear more positivity around me.
Take a moment and look at yourself in the mirror (or after you finish reading this) and just stare. Look at everything you constantly try and forget about (for me it used to be my "thunder thighs"), and reconstruct your thinking. Drown out that voice that's saying, "Why didn't I get blessed with the heavenly VS secret thigh gap?" and listen to the voice that's saying, "Today I am thankful for my beautiful fully-functioning body in which I have complete control over." Because you do have control. And don't just think "aw cute idea," and never get around to it, actually do it. If you feel positive effects from it, make it a morning routine. The idea of reconstructing your thinking could change your life.
This week I want you to try something else. When you get a compliment, whether it's about your hair, your clothes, your body, your make-up, (boys- your haircut, your hard work in the gym paying off), say THANK YOU. If you're not accustomed to responding this way, you'll get used to it, I promise. It can be uncomfortable at first because some feel that saying "thank you" means they're not being "modest." However, they gave you that compliment for a reason, so accept it. Hold on to that compliment for as long as you can, because you deserve it.
It was very easy to write this post because I feel that I'm also speaking to myself through it. I promised myself that I would only listen to the positive voice in my head while writing this, and I hope you were able to feel that energy. However, if I told you I wake up confident every day, I would be lying to you and to myself. It's a work in progress, but if I know that people around me are also struggling with it and wanting to get better, it motivates me.
I now want to share with you a video my sorority put together that can hopefully speak to all of you:
They're pretty awesome, right? Thank you for letting me share my thoughts with you and I hope everything has a FIT, not skinny Tuesday :)
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